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If you, as a professional or caring friend, haven’t faced these issues or done the preparation, it becomes harder for you to suggest it to someone who is ill. You can say (if you mean it), “You know I realize that I should do this, too, even though I am not sick right now.”

  • Take the time to think and have conversations about these issues with your own loved ones
  • Never make the suggestion or referral in a way that might undermine a person’s will to live
  • Give a gift to a parent who is ill by
    • offering to record the life story or legacy yourself;
    • securing the professional help of a personal historian, perhaps by organizing a             group of friends and family members to pay for it. If you or someone in your circle would like to do the recording but need mentoring and support, contact linda@lindablachman.com
  • See www.personalhistorians.org (Resources and Links) and www.ethicalwill.com for books, resources, or professional help with recording your own or someone else’s life story and legacy
  • See our suggestions to ill parents for some ways to think about this: For Ill Parents: Record Your Story and Prepare a Legacy
  • If the person you care about has died, you can help make a memory book for the children by collecting letters, photos and memorabilia about the deceased parent. Continue to talk to the children about the parent. Share stories and memories. See www.familyliveson.org for more ideas.

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